Are you violent or abusive?
Do you have problems managing your temper?
Do you frighten people you care about?
DO YOU WANT TO CHANGE?
The Janus Project
Sheffield Domestic Violence Intervention Programme
The Janus Project Domestic Violence Prevention Programme is the only voluntary Programme for men who want to change their abusive behaviour within Sheffield and the surrounding area.
Our support groups help members who come from Yorkshire, Derbyshire, Lincolnshire, and Nottinghamshire.
We offer long-term support group based intervention for men wishing to change their violent and/or abusive behaviour.
Our aim is to contribute to the reduction of domestic violence and abuse within the home - to break the cycle of abuse using proven anger management techniques.
We work directly with male perpetrators who attend the groups voluntarily. We also offer support to current or ex partners of the men accessing the programme.
The Janus Project is a rolling programme in which you can start or leave at any stage but we strongly recommend that you attend for at least twelve months.
Once you contact the service, you will be invited to attend up to 6 one-to-one sessions to prepare you for the group work phase of the programme.
This is a voluntary programme and a desire and motivation to change is essential.
If you want practical help with anger management, managing your temper, or violent behaviour - in a safe and supportive environment - contact us below.
Please contact the service if you would like help and support to change
0114 2498881
Are you violent or abusive?
Do you have problems managing your temper?
Do you frighten people you care about?
What is violence?
Any act that hurts someone else (either: physical, emotional, psychological, verbal, spiritual, sexual or financial) or forces them to do what you want. Constant verbal abuse and name calling can be felt as strongly as physical abuse.If you have done any of these you have behaved violently or abusively.
Am I abusive / violent?
If you have to ask this question then the answer is probably yes. This is the first step to changing your behaviours and our service will help support you and challenge you on this journey.
Why should I stop being violent?
Though it may make you feel powerful, the consequences are that people will turn away from you, especially those closest to you.
How can I stop?
The first thing for you to realise is that you are responsible for your behaviour.
- You can choose to become non-violent, non-abusive and non-threatening.
- You can choose to change your attitudes, beliefs, behaviour and responses.
- You can choose to treat with respect you partner, children and all others.
It is in your power to make this choice a reality.
What is the next step?
Contact us for an informal chat.
0114 2498881
Information for (ex) partners
We understand that having an abusive partner who is getting help to change can be a big factor in whether you stay in the relationship, or whether you return to the relationship after a separation.
We also know, that in some cases, men who are getting help, deny, minimise or justify their abusive bahaviour and some make false claims to their partners about their attendance or about their counsellor's 'recommendations'.
The first priority of The Janus Project men's programme is to support the current or ex partner of the men attending and to keep the safety of anybody experiencing domestic abuse safe.
If your (ex-)partner is attending The Janus Project programme, it is important for you to get support too:
- To ensure you know what to expect from the programme (including that your partner may not change)
- To help you deal with your (ex-) partner's behaviour
- To help you plan your safety
- To help you build your strength and confidence to make choices and move forward
Any current or ex partner of the men accessing the programme can still get support from us if your (ex-) partner does not attend, or leaves, The Janus Project programme
Intervention for under 18's and Anger Management
Individual Anger Management Sessions for Young People, early intervention for under 18's who are beginning to develop negative behaviour patterns.
Domestic Violence Prevention Programme
‘Recognising, challenging, and changing patterns of violent, destructive and abusive
behaviour'
Referrals now being taken
The Janus project will be working alongside Sheaf domestic abuse services so support can be given to the partner and their children (if any) to promote a more comprehensive holistic service within the field of domestic violence intervention.
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The Janus Project is pleased to welcome;
Professor Jane Ireland- University of Central Lancashire
Dr Nicola Graham-Kevan- University of Central Lancashire
as patrons of The Janus Project.
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Tuesday, 10 February 2009 BBC News
She'd put cigarettes out on me'
By Jim Reed
Men in England and Wales aged between 20 and 25 are more likely to be victims of domestic violence than women in the same age group. Campaigners claim not enough is being done by the police, social services and the government to tackle the problem. Read one victim's story.
Mark from Buckinghamshire, not his real name, was a victim of abuse for nearly a decade. He met his girlfriend in a bar.
"As the place was closing I heard this loud voice demanding another double Jack Daniels. We chatted for a while and I walked her home. Six weeks later she was pregnant with my first child," he told Newsbeat.
Mark says the domestic violence started about three months into the relationship.
I've been stabbed with scissors in my thumb and my wrist. I've had a marble chopping board smashed over my head which needed 12 stitches
Mark describes some of the abuse he received "Quite early on there was an incident where somebody had come to her flat, knocking on the window in the early hours of the morning. It turned out to be her ex-partner.
"She was incredibly abusive to him. I said to her, 'Listen. If you've got some things and issues to sort out with your ex, then that's no problem. I'll leave. You get on and do what you need to do. I'll speak to you tomorrow'.
"As I went to leave her flat, she grabbed a carving knife and was waving it. She wasn't directly threatening me with it but it was in her hand.
"And she said, 'Don't walk out on me. Don't walk away from me'. And alarm bells were ringing.
"Obviously I'd only known her two weeks. And with hindsight being as wonderful as it is I should have just kept walking."
'Stabbed with scissors'
Mark says that early incident in their relationship escalated to much more serious abuse.
"I've been stabbed with scissors in my thumb and my wrist. I've had a marble chopping board smashed over my head which needed 12 stitches," he said.
Male domestic violence 6.4% of men in England and Wales between the ages of 20 and 24 say they were victims of abuse in 20085.4% of women in the same age group reported being victims of domestic violenceTwo in 10 men have experienced domestic abuse since the age of 16Three in 10 women have experienced the same abuseOne in six men will be abused by their partner in their lifetime "She would put cigarettes out on me. She'd send the kids into the back garden to play and then she'd corner me in the front room and just attack me.
"She'd be scratching my face, kicking, punching, spitting in my face. That was a regular thing."
Mark says the physical abuse wasn't that hard to deal with, but the psychological manipulation was the worst part because he had no control over it.
"Some nights maybe she'd go out and go missing, turn her phone off, and then come back and say she'd been with another man. All that was going on."
Mark has been asked lots of times why he didn't walk away from the relationship but says it's not that easy to get out of an abusive relationship.
"You know that you've got to leave but you have to go through a whole process to get to the point where you've actually got the strength to walk out that door.
"Also when there are children involved, how difficult is it to walk out of the house with your kids there? It's impossible."
'Scarred for life'
Mark finally left his girlfriend after eight years.
His children are now being looked after by someone else.
He says leaving his kids was the hardest part of the process and why he waited so long to leave his abusive partner.
"I'd packed a little rucksack secretly the night before. I'd phoned a friend the day before and said to him, 'Could he wait at the bottom of the road in his van?'
"She often used to lock the doors and the windows of the house so I couldn't get out. She was worried about me leaving.
"She eventually fell asleep and I grabbed my rucksack and ran down the road with my heart pounding, jumped into my friend's van.
"We drove along the seafront at half two in the morning. I threw my keys and my phone in the sea. That was my way of saying to myself, 'OK. I'm starting a new life'.
"To be honest I wish I'd done it years before. But I stuck at it for the sake of the kids."
"I don't think I'll ever recover. I know I won't recover from what I went through. I've just learnt now how to live with it.
"But I'll carry the scars for the rest of my life."
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